Last week we welcomed our little Beanie into the world. Malcolm Terence Bennett was born at 4:11pm on January 27th at St. Pauls Hospital in Vancouver. He weighed a surprising 9 lbs 4 oz and measured 21″. We have been getting to know him this week and have fallen very deeply in love with him.
We’ve made it one week as parents! We are trying to savour these precious moments with a newborn in between some small chunks of sleep. I never imagined I would function this well on so little sleep. After one week together, I feel like we are starting to get the hang of things and get into somewhat of a schedule… for now.
We’ve been blessed by the generosity of family and friends, and we have been able to thrive as a new family because of their help. Thank you to all who have brought us meals, washed our dishes, and picked up miscellaneous items for us. We really appreciate the support of our community, and we can’t imagine doing this without it.
If you are interested in reading about my pregnancy with Malcolm you can click the links here for Part 1, Part 2 and Part 3. I’m hoping to write out his birth story before I forget all the little details and share it with you here.
Time is just flying by! I can’t believe I’m 38 weeks today. There’s only 2 weeks left to go until our due date and Beanie could come at any time now.
We enjoyed spending a lot of time with family and friends over the holidays. We are trying to get out as much as possible while we still can. I hope we can still enjoy a few date nights together while it’s just the two of us. I’m dreaming of going to Burgoo for some delicious comfort food. Yum, I love their soup and salad combo! We recently visited Guilt and Co. with a few friends to see some live jazz, and I love the vibe there. If I wasn’t twice my usual size and off balance I might have tried to join in the swing dancing. I love the 1940’s feel.
Jordan took some photos of me just before Christmas when I was 35 weeks. Time is flying by so quick. I can’t believe I’m already 38 weeks. This baby will be here in no time! We have been doing a bunch of prep around the house now that the holidays have passed. I’ve been doing some sewing and organizing, and I’m working on putting together a binder of all the helpful information we will need to access come time for labour and parenting. We bought a carseat last week, and I’ve started packing our bags for the hospital. It’s getting close guys!
Everything is starting to feel real. I’m still having trouble getting my head around the fact that there is a little person inside of me. Soon this babe will make their appearance, and I’ll get to hold them and care for them.
I think the transition to motherhood will impact me more than I expect. Pregnancy seems easy in comparison. Yes, throughout pregnancy there have been physical struggles where I have felt less like myself, but I have generally felt very special and taken care of. I’ve been told to enjoy and take advantage of this time. I feel entitled to massages and special treatment. As a mother, I will need to give all of that up in order to care for someone else. It will be this little babe who is helpless and who receives all the attention.
I imagine I might be filled with joy and pride knowing that I was able to participate and create such a lovely, complex, and intricate human being. It’s really the most incredible thing I will ever make in my life.
But in the selfish place inside of me I realize that everything will no longer be about me. I will need to transition from entitlement and being loved and cared for to tiredness and loving and caring for someone else. I can imagine this will be quite difficult, and compiled with exhaustion and hormones I understand how many women struggle with depression postpartum. Luckily Jordan has always made me feel special and loved, and I have a great community of family and friends who I know will be there for me too.
How did you other mamas survive the transition? Was there anything you experienced that you didn’t anticipate?
Time has been just flying by lately. Can you believe it’s already December?! I’m now in the last couple months of my pregnancy at 32 weeks. It seems to go by quicker and quicker each week. I still have plans to do a bunch of reorganizing around the house and many preparations for this baby. Luckily I am no longer working, but my energy levels have gone back down again, and I’m struggling to feel productive. Any tips?
I had my first baby shower the other day and was generously blessed by my neighbours, family, and friends. It was such a lovely event with games, treats, and prezzies for little Beanie. I am so glad I have such a great support network nearby.
Our prenatal classes started at the end of November, and we have now been to 4 of 7 classes. The classes are through a local organization called Childbearing Society. We are enjoying getting all the information, though it takes time to let it digest. We have been practicing different positions and techniques for labour and birth, which I really appreciate as I am such a hands on learner. It’s difficult to remember everything I read about and to put it into practice, but by doing things I feel like I will better remember them when they become useful.
Has anyone else felt as overwhelmed as I have doing research on carseats and baby equipment? There are so many options and safety regulations that make it intimidating. We are lucky to have friends who have given us some hand-me-downs, but the remaining items we need to purchase make my head spin a little bit. Any recommendations or tips for choosing a carseat?
We are getting ready for a baby! I took some time away to focus on my body, my health, and my family. Maybe you’ve noticed I haven’t posted in quite a while. I was just finding a rhythm when I needed to take a bit of a break. I didn’t anticipate being away for as long as I have, but that’s life. Our new family member is expected to arrive January 27th and we couldn’t be more excited!
We are filled with anticipation and joy as our baby grows. I have been feeling all sorts of kicks and watching my belly and this little one grow. It is so amazing to feel this babe moving around inside me. I’m becoming aware of the fact that there is actually a human living inside of me. It’s kinda weird – like sci-fi movie weird – but it’s so incredible.
Around the time our baby was the size of a jelly bean we began to call our baby ‘Beanie’, and it stuck. It’s nice to have a little nickname we can use rather than saying ‘baby’ or ‘it’. It seems a bit more personal, though we are incredibly excited to actually meet our little one and call them by name. We decided not to find out the sex of the baby, and so we are dreaming about who this little guy or little girl will be.
My energy has been pretty low throughout the pregnancy. I’m now beginning to regain some energy and feel a bit more normal. Overall, I’ve been quite lucky with my pregnancy symptoms and my work schedule. Even though at times I’ve been tired, I’ve had minimal sickness. I’ve often felt nauseous and had dizzy spells, but I was able to rest and I didn’t need to push myself so hard.
The last month or so has been much better, but I’m continuing to take it easy. I’m so lucky to have such a supportive husband. Shout-out to Jordan for all the back massages and cuddles and for washing the dishes more often. Sometimes I feel like a useless human being, but he graciously reminds me that it takes a lot of work to grow a human.
We have been doing lots of organizing and trying to make some extra room at home. We’ve worked on a few projects around the house and hope to get some more done before I lose all my energy and the Christmas festivities begin. It will feel great to freshen everything up a bit.
I’ll try to post some updates about my pregnancy as it progress. Ask some questions in the comments. I would love to keep you updated and share about my experiences.
You can also read more about our history with pregnancy and miscarriage here.